Cultivate… KNOWLEDGE by understanding the science of gratitude!

On our third day of gratitude week, we will learn about the science of gratitude and think about ways to cultivate gratitude into our daily schedules. There is no question that when we express gratitude, we feel more positive about ourselves and the people that we are building a strong relationship with. Research has shown…

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Cultivate…RELATIONSHIPS with a gratitude text!

On our second day of focusing on gratitude, join OKPTA Cultivate in a gratitude challenge: before you go to bed tonight, tell someone in your life why you are grateful for them. Write a handwritten letter, say it out loud, or just send a gratitude text! It’s easy, quick, free…and it will make someone’s day.…

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Cultivate…SAFETY by talking with kids about peer pressure

Positive peer relationships are important to any and all individuals across the lifespan. The importance of having positive relationships is that they provide us with support and a sense of belonging. As parents, we can help encourage our children to develop positive peer relationships and provide support for healthy friendships. One of the best ways…

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Cultivate…COMMUNICATION when someone shares good news by using “active construction”

We know good relationships maintain positive communication in times of conflict, but did you know that some research suggests that being positive during the positive is almost more important?! When your child shares their good news with you, it is a gift. You don’t have to be excited about all of the same things as…

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Cultivate…RELATIONSHIP with your body.

Reflecting on the poem above reminds us about how much more critical, less forgiving, and just less loving we can be to ourselves than others. We say things to ourselves that we would never say to friends, and yet our lack of self acceptance can impact our relationships. True long-term change is never motivated through…

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Cultivate…HOPE by finding Waypower and Willpower

Hope isn’t just a touchy-feely word. We now have tons of research that shows us the connection between hope and mental wellbeing, including preventing and treating depression. But what does it mean to have HOPE? According to Hope Theory (yeah, that’s a thing!) people have high hope when they have these two things: Waypower: The…

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Cultivate…SAFETY by safety planning with someone in an abusive relationship

If you or your teen are in an abusive relationship, are planning to exit an abusive relationship, or have exited a relationship and are concerned about safety, this safety planning page is a good resource. Statistically, leaving an abusive relationships is one of the most dangerous times for a person experiencing abuse. It is important…

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Cultivate…RELATIONSHIPS by making more deposits than withdrawals.

It’s sooo easy to focus on the negative behaviors of our children. When behavior needs correcting, we feel we can’t let it go or else the problem will get worse. When our children are doing things right in our eyes, however, it can feel more optional as to whether or not we acknowledge it. After…

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Cultivate…COMMUNICATION by changing a defensive climate to a supportive climate

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words”  Roy T. Bennett Our loved ones will only communicate with us…

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