Cultivate…RELATIONSHIPS by doing work together

Madame Montessori suggested that children imitate their parents and therefore are highly motivated to work. Your child wants to be just like you, so working together builds not only your relationship, but also confidence and competence. Making things together — cooking, baking, cleaning, washing dishes, setting the table and crafting particular objects with the recipient…

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Cultivate…COPING by validating the “feeling” but not necessarily the “coping mechanism”

Feelings are a normal part of the human experience, but often we shame children for certain feelings. Or we send the message that they should be able to “control” their feelings. Some research suggests that this can actually produce anxiety in children, who feel they must be in control of all of their emotions. Instead,…

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Cultivate…KNOWLEDGE by understanding the consequences of underage drinking

According to the 2018 Oklahoma Prevention Needs Assessment, about two-thirds of children reported that they have not talked with their parents about the dangers of alcohol and other drug use and they do not perceive drugs to be risky, making them more likely to being using alcohol and other drugs. Underage drinking is associated with…

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Cultivate..HOPE by re-framing negative thoughts

Consider showing your child this video of how this college athlete learned to re-frame her negative thoughts for better performance, and more importantly, better mental health. All of us can get stuck in negative self-talk, but did you know that positive thought habits are one of the best protective factors against depression? Most of us (kids and…

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Cultivate…HABITS by getting enough sleep to prevent mental illness.

Sleep. It’s a basic need for our brain but it’s one we often ignore. A tired brain doesn’t learn as well and a tired brain isn’t as mentally healthy. In fact, the cycle between sleep deprivation and mental illness is well-documented. Lack of sleep is a risk factor for depression, anxiety and other mental illnesses.…

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Cultivate…COPING by teaching your child proper deep breathing to interrupt flight or fight response

Ask your child to lie on his/her back. Ask your child to close her/his eyes and breathe normally while paying attention to all the parts of his/her body that move when she/he breathes. Ask him/her to place one hand on her/his upper chest and the other on his/her stomach. Tell your child to inhale through…

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Cultivate…SAFETY by sharing stories in a safe space!

Did you know that that there is a safe space for youth to discuss and share their stories about mental health and wellness? You Matter is a safe space for youth to discuss and share stories about mental health and wellness, created and administered by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You Matter blog posts are…

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