Harville and Helen are co-creators of the Imago Therapy for relationships. Harville has been featured on Oprah many times since the 1980s. They say that the number one thing that makes relationships difficult is difference and the way we react to and feel threatened by difference. This, of course, isn’t just true for romantic couples, but also for parent-child relationships, co-workers, and friends. Harville and Helen say that we need to learn to be “co-creators of a joint reality”. As you watch this short video (about three minutes), ask yourself what could our families look like if we made them safe for difference, and even appreciated these differences as strengths to create joint realities that are more powerful (even if more inconvenient) than what we could create alone?