Think of something your loved one does that annoys you. Is it possible to re-frame that deficit as a difference? Is there a strength in that deficit that is possible to appreciate? For example, when a child isn’t as rushed to get out the door as we are, can we find the good in the fact that they aren’t as overbooked or worried someone will judge them for being late as we might be? Can we celebrate that they can still get lost in play? It doesn’t mean we have to accept all things as they are, but learning to see the best in others means we love them the way we want to be loved. It’s hard to do, but it builds trusting relationships.
(Please note: We’re not talking about a deficit that amounts to physical or emotional abuse. If you are experiencing abuse please see our Get Help Now page.)